Saturday, November 26, 2005
Expectations
I think a lot of times misunderstandings in relationships occur because of differences in our expecatations of what another person is supposed to do in a given situation. For example, we expect our boyfriends to remember things like our birthdays and valentine's day (what I believe to be reasonable expectations) and certain boyfriends may expect us to do all the cooking, cleaning, and bringing home our own bacon while they sit back (what I believe to be unreasonable expectations). When our expections aren't met, we get angry and disappointed. But my point is that we can only have expectations of people that we care about.
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Isn't a lack of communication the core problem? If there are assumed expectations that the other person isn't meeting, are they dropping the ball or do they just not know that this is expected of them? You don't really know.
As time goes on, one person might tire of meeting these expectations, even if they initially agreed to them. They can continue on in misery (and end up resenting their SO), wait until they hit a breaking point and explode, or discuss the matter when there isn't an emotional charge to the issue and reach a mutually agreeable solution.
When you find someone who rocks your world, you've gotta hang on to them. Mismatched expectations and poor communication are curable ills - you can read all about how to avoid them in my book. :-)
Happy birthday this week!
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